New Year 2011

A new dawn, a new day, a new year!

A new year is upon us and I am ever so glad.  2010 was the worst year ever, starting  last New Year’s eve in the hospital emergency room with Randy, Mom, Ruth Ann and Jeff.  Mom was taken by ambulance from the car dealership where she slipped and fell.  Randy drove her on that icy afternoon to win a car instead she won five dollars. When I walked in the ER, I noticed  Jeff had his arm wrapped in a sling. He had been in a car accident earlier that day.   As he explained some crazy woman ran into his car pretty much totaling it.   The impact popped his driver side air bag which exploded and  burnt his arm.  My day was not much better as I elucidated.  I had asked Kyle to move out after all his shenanigans with alcoholism.  The five of us just looked at each other in amazement and actually laughed in relief that we were all okay.  What a day!

Instead of New Years Resolutions, this is my year of “reverse process.”   This is how I am reversing my need to fix others and just fix me.  My list as follows.

  • Cook whatever I want
  • Wash only my laundry
  • Clean up whenever or just hire a maid
  • Watch TV in bed with popcorn or chocolate
  • Late at night look out my balcony, see the city lights, moon, firecrackers, and smile
  • Ride my bike even in the snow
  • Eat what I like or just eat out every day
  • Maybe exercise or maybe NOT
  • Have a drink on special occasions
  • Enjoy organizing anything at anytime, (art, books, jewelry, closet, kitchen cabinets, DVDS, shoes, bills)
  • Drink fresh fruit juice from my juicer every morning
  • Write a blog
  • Take photos, put in the blog
  • Find Temples. Get a Buddha or 2, or 3 or 4.  Remember there is a “little Buddha” in every one.  Give Buddha’s away!
  • Listen to my self
  • Don’t forget:  Think smart!
  • Continue thinking smart and blog good philosophy
  • Be spiritual, pray and look for the light in everyone
  • When the bad stuff bothers me just put a blazing flame around it and send it away

Let the fixing commence!

My encounter with a wise Buddhist woman

I meet up with Jane, a mom of an art student.  We had a yummy vegan lunch on the top floor of the Jiming Temple which was built in the Southern Dynasties by Liang wu-ti.  The existing temple was built in the Ming Dynasty overlooking Xuanwu Lake.   Behind the temple there is a section of the palace wall called Taicheng.   We decided to walk the great wall to the next temple at Jiuhua Hill Park.  It was a chilly afternoon and very few people were out, making it quiet and relaxing to chat about Buddhism, art, food, and just plain girl talk.   Strolling on the top of the wall was picturesque to say the least.  As we walked along looking down we saw a statue of a golden Buddha nestled between the wall and the hill, in the private quarters of the monestary.  It was nice  to see monks in saffoon robes  going about their daily life, without noticing us.

Leaving the wall we walked up the hill to the temple.  As we meandered through the magnolia trees in the park, there was a lovely voice coming from someone singing  in the distance.  At the top we saw the temple and a pagoda roofed gazebo where we found a beautiful woman standing in front of a monstrous bell, as she sang she would periodically clap the bell.  The sounds were ever so harmonious.  Jane was curious and we stood and listened.  I figured the woman was centering her chi with the melody she was creating.  We sat down and the woman came over and sat with us and we had the most wonderful spiritual conversation about praying, God,  how Buddhism is accepting of all people.  This wise woman is a painter and a writer, just like me!  We agreed that our meeting was not by chance.  I told her my story of Andy and the happy Buddha, she smiled and bowed with prayer hands graciously and said there is a little Buddha in everyone.   Her kindness was delightful.  Sun Yu Fen said she would bring me a copy of her writings to our school this week as a gift.  Jane had never been around a Buddhist or really spoke about spiritualism and was so happy to translate.  We walked down the stairs  to the temple, hearing rhythmic chanting.   It was prayers for dead ancestors.   I was in the right place, it was a good day.  I said a sweet prayer for Andy and June. We left the temple with free books in hand and headed down the street.  A beggar came up asking for coins, Jane pulled away.  I stopped, found a coin in my coat pocket and placed it in his bowl.  I told her it was alright.  Giving to the man in need is always good, because when you walk away, you shouldn’t  feel bad.  I know to give will show compassion and I will not have a bad feeling.  She seemed okay with my answer and we moved on.  She pointed out a vegan shop to buy some vegetarian food to take home.  She got a cookbook and I got a package of fake duck.  I saw a Tibetan Buddhist shop and of course had to go in.  I explained to Jane about the Tibetan singing bowls and bought a small prayer wheel.  I asked for any books in English and after much raffling around the store manager found the only one, a very lovely book on Tibetan Buddhism and gave it to me free of charge.  It was such a spiritually blessed day.  Home we went, Jane now wanting to learn to cook with vegan meats and I very thankful for sweet encounters.