Relationships!
When I read the book “Committed” by Elizabeth Gilbert concerning marriage I began to think what constitutes a good relationship. Here I am in China, pretty much by myself pondering the art of a good marriage. After three marriages I want to know why my relationships with men don’t work. I do not want to be married right now, or maybe not ever again. It is why did mine fall apart? Elizabeth Gilbert says the government and the church should not be the binding contract in a marriage. It should be the two people involved in the relationship. No matter what happens the government or church has set rules to control your marriage. When the break up happens, a contract is broken, and the government gets their greedy hands on everyones money to finalize the ending. Is it right that our private intimate commitment be controlled by others?
Looking at the word “Marriage”, the first part is Marry– or merry. Was I merry in my marriage? Certainly at this point I would say no, it ended and I am not merry. Therefore I have come to the conclusion, I want something different and it will be a “Carriage.” It is a commitment of sorts where one partner carries the other in good and bad. I carry you when you can’t carry your self and you carry me when I can’t. Picture a rickshaw, one person walking and carrying the other. Both could walk, or switch and the other can be carried. I suppose both could sit in the seats, but it will go no where. Maybe this is where mine ended. When I needed carrying, my partner jumped in the seat next to me and refused to walk and carry me. Caring for me is very necessary in my new love relationships. Care for me and I will care for you. This is my new quest: to find a “Carriage” relationship. Nothing hard, just need for both parties to know how it works. I want all my relationships to be like this especially with that one special man, whoever he is.
Many of you know I am working on a 30 day soul mate experiment. The blog called “Finding a soul mate” will explain in detail my quest to find the right soul for me. In five days it will conclude. Maybe he will appear in a horse drawn “carriage”, a rickshaw or not at all. But I think something will happen, I have faith.
Then again I might just go buy a fish.